Let me start this off by saying I have never watched the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills nor am I a country music fan. In spite of these two facts I have become very aware of Brandi Glanville and Leeann Rimes vicious feud. A little back story for those of you blissfully unaware, Brandi Glanville was a model who married a man named Eddie Cibrian. They had two children before it became public knowledge that Eddie was in fact a douchebag who cheated, repeatedly. How it became public knowledge is that one of his affairs was with Leeann Rimes, also married,who was apparently a famous country artist. Now, normally I wouldn’t even look twice at an article about these people but the way it all played out was so scandalous and distasteful it was hard not to notice. Video and photo evidence of Eddie with Leeann were everywhere and by everywhere I mean every rag mag and paparazzi fueled gossip website to which I am embarrassed to admit I pay attention. Following the big reveal of the affair was an apology by Eddie and then endless stories about Leeann stalking him because she just couldn’t give him up. Having never met any of the involved parties I just shook my head and moved on because none of it affected my life and I would never know what was true and what wasn’t. Then came TWITTER WARS!!!! -cue dramatic music here.
Again, through gossip sites I started hearing about how Leeann Rimes now in a relationship and then a marriage with Eddie, was constantly battling it out via Twitter with Brandi. This made me curious because how could a woman who did something so shameful as have an affair, to a married man, have the balls to talk smack about the scorned ex-wife. What could she possibly be saying? I had to know. I must admit I then became fascinated by the whole debacle. At times I was even tempted to shame Ms. Rimes myself on Twitter but then thankfully I realized it isn’t any of my business. However, there are many, many people, men and women who seem to think it is their business. People who spend a great deal of time either harshly criticizing or adamantly defending either Leeann or Brandi. These two women have managed to rile up some pretty intense emotions in people. The online bullying among the “adults” is astounding. They viciously attack whichever women they despise and then when the fans “defend” that woman they viciously attack the fans. It truly is a toxic environment. The hot button topics are Leeann constantly rubbing her “happy” marriage in Brandi’s face and frequently mentioning the two sons Brandi and Eddie have together as if they are her own. As a mother I can understand how this would be painful for Brandi because your children are so precious to you the mere idea of another person competing with you for their affection is excruciating. However I think with time and healing it would become a relief to know that the stepmother loved and cared for your children while they were with her. Unfortunately it doesn’t come across as sincere with Leann and more like an unnecessary attempt to hurt the woman who had her man first. Maybe that isn’t the case but is definitely the vibe being given.
Brandi herself is a polarizing character because instead of fading into the background and suffering in silence she has been shouting her pain and anger from the rooftops. She went on a reality show, wrote a book and has given countless interviews about what happened. Some people see her as a hero to all women scorned and others see her as an opportunist who used this terrible situation to gain notoriety. The self admitted “filter-less” ex-model is brash, over the top and unafraid to say whatever enters her head. Her personality is at once admirable to some and a major turn off to others. Leeann on the other hand has taken the unusual route for someone who played the role of adulteress and has portrayed herself in interview after interview as the victim, unable to help the fact that she fell in love. Obviously not a popular take on the situation for a lot of people. Though, because she will respond to people on Twitter, feeding the delusion that they know her, there are people who fervently defend her and feel she has been unfairly treated.
The part that bothers me about all of this, aside from the fact that I ever cared to follow the story, is the way that people on Twitter feel they can say the most unbelievably hurtful things to these two women and to each other. Hidden behind a computer screen they attack fearlessly. Not an ounce of human decency is shown. Rarely do you see anyone encouraging these women to put the ugliness behind them and never an instance where someone tries to see both sides. More importantly, it never seems to occur to either Brandi or Leeann that making their personal lives an off limits topic may be the best thing for the two children involved. To them I would say-Talk about your careers, such as they are, but leave your personal issues for behind closed doors. Stand up to this nastiness by being united in this and I’m sure you would both find life a lot easier and the healing would begin.