Valentine’s Day.On this day when everyone is discussing love I just want to point out that roses, chocolates or a little something special between the sheets are nice but they don’t have to be reserved for over commercialized holidays. Doing something nice everyday for the ones you love is more likely to make you happy than running around spending money on what the commercials tell you to or “putting out” due to a sense of duty rather than true passion.
Say, I love you, often, and mean it. Touch the person you love, even if it is just taking their hand or a brief hug as you pass by in your home. Listen when your loved ones speak, don’t zone out, think about what you need to be doing or worst of all pay more attention to some electronic device than the person in front of you. Do nice things just because you know it will make your love happy. It doesn’t even have to be big extravagant displays. Warm up their car on a cold morning, listen when they have had a bad day and need to vent or do that errand you know they need done, not because it benefits you but because it is kind. Spend time together, just the two of you. Even if it is grocery shopping, do it together, the feeling of being a team in even the most mundane tasks can really bond you.
Love doesn’t have to be expensive but it does need to be expressed. I love the chocolates and roses I got from my hubby today but only because he shows me how much he loves me every other day of the year. They are not empty gestures because they are backed up by so many other meaningful little displays of true warmth, caring, love and affection.
So if you need Hallmark to remind you to show how much someone means to you then it might be time to reevaluate.