They say love conquers all. In the movies everything comes out ok in the end but what about in real life?
I’m one of the lucky ones, I have a great husband who adores me. He’s a fantastic father and we are a real team. Occasionally a bag of lime, a shovel and a roll of tarp mysteriously appear in my trunk but I’ve never had to use them. Our kids, for the most part, have been great. No partying or drug use. They bring home decent grades and say I love you, often, even in front of their friends. We shouldn’t have any problems right? If only……
Sometimes life throws you curveballs and you’re caught completely off guard. Your kids make poor choices and bring people into their/ your life that wreak havoc on it. You hope that with all of the years spent loving them, building their self esteem and instilling good morals they will handle it the right way. You hope they know their own self worth and the importance of family and that they will defend all you’ve built for them. Sometimes you are wrong. They stumble and sometimes they fall.
When you’re hurt, disillusioned and exhausted it would be easy at times to throw up your hands and give up. If you are in a position, like I am, where your child is months away from being an adult legally, you may be tempted to ride out your time and send them out into the world to learn life the hard way. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen too many times. In the utmost of honesty it’s crossed my mind……….Damn that’s hard to admit.
I tell my kids all the time that it would be so much easier to be the parent who doesn’t care and who lets them do whatever they want. It is so much harder to say no but you do it because it’s the right thing to do. It’s tough to enforce the rules at times but you know in your heart they will be better people for it and lead happier lives. Everyone wants to be the cool mom. No one wants to see their child hurt and angry but sometimes you have to do what’s hard and whats right, not what’s easy. This is why my kids never ate ice cream for breakfast, roamed the streets at night or bought ninja throwing stars at the flea market, no matter how much they begged.
I’m not the type to take the easy route. I don’t believe in giving up on the people I love. I will fight for what I believe in. I believe in making family top priority and I will fight with my last breath for mine and I expect my children to do the same.
As I tell my boys, I’m willing to do the hard work ………..because you’re worth it.